Do You Exude Enthusiasm?
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Do You Exude Enthusiasm?
Great tips from Jessica Melhorn
What’s it like being a Lady Boss?
Many couples and clients ask me how I do it. How do I manage being a business owner, teacher, wife, and, most recently, a first-time mom? That is a great question and some days, I am not quite sure how I juggle all of the hats I wear each day. First and foremost, I love what I do! I have always been quite ambitious and put my whole mind, body, and soul into everything I do. I have always lived by the motto, “If you are going to do a job, you might as well do it right!” Below I will explain how I manage the different aspects of my life while being a successful “Lady Boss.”
Being a business owner has never been in my dreams or my life plans. Surprisingly, God had different plans for my life than I originally had planned for myself. When my boyfriend, now husband, Allory, asked me if I wanted to run a wedding and event venue, it took me a few weeks to process, pray, research, and decide if this is something I could see myself doing. I frequented the Small Business Association website more nights than I can remember trying to figure out what it would be like to own my own business and what steps I needed to take. Allory came from a family of very successful business owners; but me, not so much. No one in my family has ever owned their own business and I didn’t know the first thing about how to start one of my own! What will happen if our business wasn’t successful? After two weeks of endless research and watching several recorded seminars, I decided, “What is the worst that could happen? I would never have this opportunity in my life again.” So, I decided to grab the bull by the horns and dive in head first!
My husband, and business partner, has been very supportive and we are almost always on the same page with how to run our business. We always consult with each other before making business decisions and we keep our communication open every single day. These are the key components of making our business successful. Also Allory’s mother, Sandra, who 47 years of experience of running her own company with her husband, has been a great mentor over the past four years of setting up and running our business.
Second, I have been a teacher for over ten years. I absolutely love working with children and have always seen myself in the teaching field. I have taught kindergarten through fourth grade in regular education, as well as Learning Support and Emotional Support in special education. In addition, I spent several summers throughout college and a few summers during my teaching career working for a special needs camp called Aaron’s Acres. As you can see, children are an integral part of my life. Teaching and being around children brings me so much joy! After having my son, Miles, in August of 2020, I decided to resign from my current teaching position. It was one of the hardest decisions of my life but I have a feeling that I will be back in the classroom again in the future.
Third, I have been married to my wonderful husband for three and a half years. We were the very first couple to get married here at Melhorn Manor when we opened our doors on September 30, 2017. Being married to your business partner has a lot of ups and downs and it can be very trying on a relationship. Our pre-marriage counselors told us a few months prior to our wedding that if we made it this far as a couple, we should have no problem staying together. That is definitely the truth! Our marriage is all about open communication and setting boundaries. We work very hard, seven days a week, to build our business and be there 24/7 for our couples, but we also take time for ourselves and our son to make memories and share time together without business talk. We try to take at least two vacations a year to get away and refresh ourselves so we can give our couples and clients our all. As the saying goes, “You can’t feed anyone with an empty cupboard.”
Fourth, I just became a first-time mom on August 23, 2020. I could go on and on about becoming a mother, as this has been my life goal since I was about four years old. I feel as though I was put on this Earth to have and raise sweet babies. Miles completes me and I feel so whole with him in my life. He truly is a dream baby! He is the happiest baby I have ever met, and I am not just saying that because he is my son. Getting work done on the daily while having a little cutie in the house is not always an easy task for me, but I do what I have to do each day while taking lots of time to soak in all the baby cuddles! As stated above, it has not been an easy decision for me to resign from my teaching position, but it was definitely the right thing to do for our son, business, and marriage.
I feel extremely blessed and proud of where and how far I have come in life thus far. I have reached goals I never even set out to reach! Good things come to those who work hard and never give up. I will leave you with this: Never doubt your abilities or limit what you can accomplish in life. More importantly, never let anyone, including yourself, tell you that you can’t do or achieve something. Reach for your dreams and always push hard and you will persevere!
The hand that rocks the cradle is the hand that rules the world.- -- William Ross Wallace
Don’t miss Jessica Melhorn who will be a panelist at the June 17, 2021 seminar entitled Proven Success Skills for Business Women: Lady Bosses Forum from 9 AM to 12 noon Eastern standard Time at Melhorn Manor in Mount Joy, PA. This event will also be live streamed. Click here to register for this event.