What's YOUR Style?
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What's YOUR Style?
Understanding Interpersonal Leadership
Did you ever wonder why you get along so easily with some people and other people just drive you crazy?
Maybe it's their personality, temperament, background, or a combination of all of these?
Each of us has a unique style, an interpersonal leadership style. This style is not based on our position in a company or how we "lead" others, but more about how we interact through our communication patterns, our stress response, how we solve problems and cooperate, collaborate, and work with others.
This style impacts all areas of our professional lives and can become a real issue when self-awareness is lacking.
There are four unique styles: Director, Counselor, Analyzer, and Persuader.
Each of these styles has strengths and blind spots...and a predictable stress pattern.
Without a general understanding of other people's stylistic differences, we can get frustrated and respond in a way that is not productive. When our style clashes with another, we can delay the process of decision making, team building, and collaboration.
Becoming more aware of our stylistic differences gives us the opportunity to flex, and bend, and work with others in a way that gets things done more efficiently and with less drama. Helping others use their strengths and minimize their blind spots, helps creates a much healthier work environment.
Early on in my current healthcare administration career, my employer, a brilliant surgeon, who radically improves patients' vision every day, would cause me to interact with him in a way that was not typically characteristic of me. I would get so irritated and annoyed. I felt disrespected when he would not make timely decisions. We would clash regularly on how and when to make decisions. I found out that the doctor is a heavy Analyzer and I am NOT! I am a Director who likes to make educated decisions, but I don't need a ton of facts and figures before doing so. While we discovered that we both needed to "flex" our styles to be able to work more efficiently together, an amazing thing happened; we uncovered hidden strengths we both possessed that could bring out the best in each other. We could be more patient and have a better understanding about our weak areas, or our blind spots, within our styles.
You see, when we can admit that we all have strengths and weaknesses, and not take everything so personally, we can help create a work environment that is more productive and healthy. And, long-term, that is a great thing!
No matter how thin you slice it, there are always two sides.- Tony Robbins
(Click here to register for Lisa Murray’s “Interpersonal Leadership” seminar at the Comfort Suites in Manheim, PA on April 27, 2017. )